We are naturally a fairly social species who like the company of others. It is why many of us flock to cities so that we can feel we are not alone, surrounded by other people. But, as the reality now is that many of us have to live alone and cannot socialise with others we have to confront a reality of being comfortable in our own company.
In many ways it can be very liberating- suddenly with no social pressure you have time to do all the jobs and tasks you have been putting off for weeks, listen to the story you have always wanted to listen to, you have time for your family and the people most important in your life and find happiness in yourself.
I used to be rather afraid of being on my own. But, I gradually realised that we are all really on our own every day of our lives, dealing with our inner and outer battles of a sort, and so it doesn’t really make a difference whether we are surrounded by people or not. It is very easy to make less effort if you are own your own; cook less adventurous food, stay in your pyjamas, not make your bed…. there is no one to see it and no one to care. But, it is important to maintain high standards whether you are on your own or not, if you can- keep your self-discipline and self-respect wherever you are and who ever you’re with and remember that you are YOU! Then the ripples of all that you are and give can begin to spread.
